My oldest boy, Ethan, has Autism. I used to always wish I was more of a patient person, and as always, God got the last laugh on that one…… he sent me Ethan! Boy , oh boy, has this journey with him tested my patience. I have come a long way on my patience journey and thought I was good to go until I met my friend “homework”!!! Oh my….every single night of homework used to be a nightmare in my house. Ethan just couldn’t (wouldn’t) sit and do it…..ugh….talk about testing me. Over the years it got slowly better but still challenging. And some nights were still plain awful. Pulling teeth to get the least amount of work done. Well about 2 years ago…..there was “The Night”. In a 3 hour period nothing got done, despite me offering assistance, giving directions etc…..and after hour 3 mom’s “patience meter” redlined…..bad, very very bad. I blew a gasket. I yelled at my poor 10 year old with a tirade that went on for I don’t know how long….I was crying, he was crying. I was done. I was done with no one getting to do anything in the evening like watch a show, go out to the store, do sports, because all of us were spending our evenings waiting around for Ethan to get his homework done. ! It was no life. And he got to hear all my frustrations. At some point I reined myself in and realized I had gone too far. I stopped, told him I loved him, told him we both needed 15 minutes to cool off, and then we would talk. When I was sufficiently clear headed I reentered his room. Ethan immediately got up from his seat and started opening his window, which I thought was strange…..I asked what he was doing, and he didn’t answer ( autism in action …ugh), so I watched. Very quickly it became apparent that he was trying to climb out his bedroom window….. and his room is on the second floor! I ran over and stopped him, and asked why he was doing that , and he said he was just trying to get away from me!!!!!! . You know that feeling you get when you know you messed up, but then you know you REALLY messed up…… well magnify that by a 1000, and that was what I felt like. A real low point in my parenting career. Right there, I told both my kids that Mom was going to give up yelling. I doubt they believed it was possible. I didn’t think it was possible! But I am the type of person who does what I say I am going to do, and I did it. I have the occasional slip up, but I catch myself. This was a huge turning point in my house. I say fewer things I regret, there is calm in our house, and the best part…….homework is also much better. Ethan knew he had pushed me past my limit and he did his part to put in more effort with his homework. The fact that there is no mom yelling at him, makes it easier to work. We now enjoy sports 3-4 nights a week, we get to have down time to play or watch a tv show. I love it! I just wish I could have come to this realization without having to have had “The Night”!!!!